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Equal Rights for On-Line Dating

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 15:57:43 -0700

Blog #9

April 30, 2008

Equal Rights for On-Line Dating

So what is the deal with eHarmony? I have been seeing a lot of commercials lately for eHarmony and their competitors. Chemistry.com has been posting many commercials about types of people who have been rejected by the former. At first I didn’t care much, and then one day, while I was flipping through the TV, One caught my eye. It was a man who was looking at some kind of magazine like Playboy, and then at then end states, “Nope, still gay,” and a big rejecting stamp comes across him. To me, I thought this was really unfair. What does eHarmony have against gay people anyway? It is hard enough as it is to find nice compatible people being straight, but I can assume it might be harder for someone who is attracted to the same sex. A lot of research I have done talks states that many gay men meet people through the internet, so an online dating service would be perfect. I think eHarmony is discriminating against these individuals and should allow people who are gay to meet others through their site, but this is just my opinion.

To visit the eharmony site, go to http://www.eharmony.com/servlet/home?cid=50601&aid=1001&GCID=S14727x010&WT.mc_id=50601-1001&WT.srch=1&kid=GOG0032619141

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The Search For My History

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 13:14:23 -0700

Kortney Haynes

Race Gender and Media

April 28, 2008

Family History

The Search for my History

Over the past few weeks I have devoted a great amount of time to uncovering

some of my family’s history. I happened to know some of it already, considering 75% of

my living relatives actually live in the Oklahoma City are and I see everyone from my

grandparents to cousins on average about once every two weeks. However, I have

learned a great deal more by chatting with my relatives and now I have a greater

understanding of who I am and where I came from.

My Father’s name is Richard Gene Haynes. He is the younger of two sons. His

older brother is named David and his parents are Johnnie and Pauline. My mother’s

name is Dianna Dee Haynes. Her parents are Jim and Dee Dunn. She has three other

siblings, and therefore her side of the family is much bigger than my dad’s, however I am

extremely close to both.

My parents met in high school, and shortly after they graduated, they got married.

This July will be there 29th anniversary. I would have to say I am equally close to both of

my parents. I look the most like my mother and I have a lot of my father’s personality

traits.

What am I?

My heritage is from a jumble of different cultures. On my mother’s side of the

family, I discovered I am Scottish, Irish and Belgium. While meeting with my

grandmother to discuss my heritage, I learned our family history goes back to a castle in

Scotland. The castle is called Castle Birr, which belonged to my ancestor, Sir Charles O’

Carroll. We even have a Coat of Arms.

On my father’s side of the family, I discovered I am part German, which comes

from my grandmother, Pauline Hessel. Her great great grandfather moved to the United

States from Germany to Idaho. From Idaho they took a Wagon trail to Oklahoma.

Unfortunately, I don’t anything else about my dad’s side. My Grandfather died in 2000

and my grandmother is too ill to remember much of his history, however I have a much

better story from Johnnie Haynes that does not involve my blood line, which I will share

later. So basically, after talking to both sides of my living family I found out I am

German, Irish, Belgium and Scottish.

Roles of Men and Women

As stated before, I was fortunate enough to be raised in a house of equal parents.

They never over-ruled the other’s decision, and they have always talked to me equally. I

love that about my parents. I can sit down with either my mother or my father and have a

real, honest conversation. One thing they taught me was to work for what I want.

Although my mother quit her job to stay at home with my sister and I, my parents always

taught me the value of hard work and education. Just because I am a woman, does not

mean I shouldn’t go out into the workforce and have an important job. I am not sure if I

even want to have kids, and my parents don’t mind. They have raised me to be an

individual and I can do whatever I want just as well as a male as long as I work hard for

it.

I believe I was raised this way because of their parents. My father’s mother

worked beside my grandfather in the family business, and never just “took care of the

house.” Same with my mother’s parents. They too have owned family businesses and

both worked. There was never a “man makes the living and the women belongs in the

kitchen” mentality in my family and I am very gracious for that.

Johnnies Charcoal Broiler

I honestly cannot write a blog on my family history and not talk about my

grandfather’s extraordinary life. Before I get started, I am not favoring my dad’s father

in any way, and I think that is important to make clear. I am truly blessed to be able to

have known all of my grandparents, and I have had a strong relationship with all four of

them. I am just singling Johnnie out because his story fits in perfectly with what I have

learned through Race, Gender and the Media.

My grandfather ran away from home at the age of 15 due to a fight with his

father. He changed his age and birthday and joined the army out in California. Although

according to my father, he never talked much about his years out there, he did learn how

to cook while in the army. Five years later he returned to Oklahoma to make amends

with his parents. That is when he met my grandmother. She was only 14 at the time and

was his next-door neighbor. They were married by the time she was 15 and she had my

uncle at 16. Yes, it was quite an early start.

Since my grandfather had learned to cook in the army, he ran a popular restaurant

during the 1960’s called the Split-T. Most people from Oklahoma City ate at that

restaurant, and I always have numerous people who come up to tell me stories about

those days.

One famous story was written by Clara Luper. Luper is probably the most

famous Civil Rights Activist from Oklahoma. One day, she was conducting a sit-in at the

Split-T. My grandfather ran the place, however he was not the owner. The owner was a

racist who ordered my grandfather to kick Clara Luper and the other people out who were

conducting the sit-in. Some years later, my grandfather made it into her book. This is

apart of my history and I think it is an interesting story.

Eventually my grandfather and the owner of the Split-T parted ways due to many

differences. Therefore, in 1971 my grandfather opened up his own restaurant which is

called Johnnies Charcoal Broiler. It is a family owned business, with over eight locations

across Oklahoma. Johnnies is my history. Because of my grandfather’s hard work, and

my father’s determination to continue to make our business better, we have been

extremely fortunate.

Equality and Johnnies

Growing up around my family’s business, I have learned a lot. One of the most

important things I have learned however is never to judge a person by their race or sexual

orientation. I want to first talk about the subject of race. Since I was a little girl, my

parents taught me the importance of not to be prejudice. My dad has numerous

managers and staff that work at Johnnies who are extremely important to him that are not

Caucasian. To me, this is important because I have never had a racial bone in my body,

and I contribute this greatly to the way my family raised me and the face that I have

grown up around numerous races my whole life. I even had a black Barbie doll named

Simone, which was after a worker at Johnnies. When I was little I was fascinated by her

long, pretty, braided hair and gold jewelry. Whenever we went to Johnnies, I would

always want to sit on the counter and talk to Simone.

I have also been raised not to discriminate based on sexual orientation. My dad

has had numerous lesbians working for him since I was like three-years-old. Every year

they all get together with my grandmother and have a dirty Santa party, which makes her

Christmas season extra special. Because of my constant interaction with lesbians at such

a young age, homosexuality has honestly never bothered me, and it is a sore subject when

people are prejudice against someone due to their sexual orientation.

My Values and Beliefs

I have said it over and over again by I am truly fortunate for the way I have been

raised. The most important however is my believes and values which stems from my

family’s strong faith. I was raised in church. I am a protestant Christian and it is by far

the most important part of my life. I think many of my values stem from this fact, mixed

with the other influences of my family. For example, one lesson my parents have always

taught me is not to judge another person. I try to live by this. No matter how horrible a

person acts, or where they are from or what they have done, it is wrong to judge them.

My parents have also taught me the importance of faith. Any day all of our

blessing could be taken away. They have taught me that if I have faith however, I will

succeed. These values and beliefs are vital to my future and will help me succeed in

whatever I do.

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Reality love shows

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 09:43:56 -0700

Reality Love Shows

Lately when I turn on the TV, a thought crosses my mind. Why are there so many reality shows centered on people who are looking to find love?!?! Seriously though, it all started with the Bachelor. Then there was Flavor of Love, I Love New York, Rock of Love, Tila Tequila and so on and so forth. Is this truly how one finds love these days or are people just trying to get in their 15 minutes of fame? Now I have to admit, while I am puzzled by these shows I still watch them, because they are pretty entertaining. Take for example, The Bachelor, which I think is the classiest of these type shows. Although it is on ABC, they are constantly giving the girls more and more alcohol so they get drunk and show emotions and the Rose Ceremonies happen at like 2 am when everyone is tired so that there will be more drama. Because of these factors, I have to ask if this is truly real or just good television. Also, in all eleven or so season of the Bachelor or Bachelorette only like one couple has actually lasted. This to me is not a surprise, considering they start out with 25 contestants who have to be narrowed down to one person in six weeks and at the end of the show they are proposed to. To me, this is not how to find true love.

http://www.vh1.com/shows/dyn/rock_of_love/series.jhtml http://abc.go.com/primetime/bachelor/index?pn=index

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YOUNG@HEART

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 09:38:47 -0700

YOUNG@HEART

I read an article on the movie our class is going to see and it got me really excited. Once again, it was in People Magazine and it was titled, “3 Reasons I Love Young@Heart.” To me, it seems like the movie is going to be pretty interesting. The article states that the choir members of the movie sing songs from various artists such as Bruce Springsteen and Cold Play. This seems somewhat amusing, since the choir members are so old, and if I enjoy the movie maybe I will take my grandmother back to see it, because it seems the choir can be pretty inspiring to people. According to People Magazine, they even make a crowd of young prison inmates tear up during a visit to a prison, and that sound pretty inspiring and moving to me. I am really looking forward to our class trip to see Young@Heart.

http://www.foxsearchlight.com/youngatheart/

To hear Young@Heart visit, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2u6k-99qcCE

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Brothers and Sisters

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 09:34:23 -0700

Brothers and Sisters

I was recently reading through one of my favorite magazines when I came across an article about Luke MacFarlane. He is an actor who plays a gay man on the hit show Brothers & Sisters. It turns out, that he is gay himself and has a positive outlook on the progression of our society when it comes to homosexuality. According to People Magazine, he stated in a recent interview, “how exciting, that we’re saying this can be part of the cultural fabric now.” I thought this was an interesting article, because we have talked about homosexuality a lot during class discussion and I found the group presentation on Queer Studies quite interesting. I think MacFarlane is right, due to show such as Brothers & sisters, homosexual relationships are becoming more prominent in our culture. This is an exciting step; however we as a society still have a long way to go.

To learn more on Luke MacFarlane, visit http://lukemacfarlane.org/

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Johnnies

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 08:44:58 -0700

Johnnies

Split t

I have been doing a lot of research on my family history for our upcoming assignment. I found one story from my past to be quite interesting. My grandfather is Johnnie Haynes, who started the restaurant chain , “Johnnies” in 1971. Before he opened up what is still our family business today, he ran a very popular eating place in the 1950’s called the Split T. Unfortunately, during the time he managed the Split T, there was a lot of racial tension. A famous Civil Rights Activist, whose name is Clara Luper knew my grandfather, and didn’t exactly like him. She is probably the most famous African American in Oklahoma for the Civil Rights. One day, she decided to host a sit in at the Split T. Unfortunately, the owner of the Split T, was a racist, and ordered my grandfather to kick them out. He of course did what he was told, or he would have been fired. Years later, Clara Luper wrote a book, and mentioned my grandfather’s name in it. She says something about Johnnie kicking her out of the Split T. To me, this was pretty interesting because it connects me to history.

For more on Johnnies, visit http://johnniesok.com/johnnies.php

For an article about Johnnies go to http://www.okseniorjournal.com/articles.html

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A Single Girl's Hero.

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 16:08:46 -0700

I am so excited for Sex and the City the movie to hit theaters May 30^th. For the past several years now, I have watched every episode of the popular HBO series over and over again. I even have the box set of every episode. Putting my personal love for Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte aside, I truly believe Sex and the City contributed to a change for single, successful women everywhere. Throughout the series, Sex and the City allowed four women, who were in their 30’s, to be single and still have a fabulous lifestyle. It is empowering for someone like me, who is single, and about to graduate from college to watch. It shows audiences that you don’t have to be married by the time that you are 30. Instead a person can have wonderful relationships, great friends and amazing careers. In the words of Kim Katrall, who stated on the farewell to the show, “Sex and the City is a love letter to the single girl.” To see the preview of the film, you can go to http://www.sexandthecitymovie.com/

Famous Call Girl

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 19:43:25 -0700

I feel like over the past two weeks, everywhere I turn Ashley Dupre is there. I feel like it is this girl is getting way to much attention for being such a high profile call girl. I recently read an article on her, and she is only 22 years old. that is my age. The most recent article is from the FOX news website. Donald Trump has asked her to be on his new reality tv show. The show features 'girls gone bad' and enrolls them in charm school. Not only do I find this kind of stupid, but I also feel like they are just playing off VH1's former tv show, which happend to be entitled, Charm School.

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Hillary vs Obama???

nobody@vox.com(hayn5204) — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 19:34:59 -0700

Hillary vs Obama

I am not sure who I am going to vote for in the 2008 election. I feel there is so much media attention surrounding Hillary and Obama, however I feel many of my questions about them still have not been answered. I do however, enjoy this video. It brings a little bit of humor to the situation. Hope you enjoy!

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